Destructive Parenting Behaviours
Destructive parenting behaviours that keep kids from becoming frontrunners – of their own lives and of the world’s enterprises (outcome of survey conducted by various latest Parenting Workshops):
How Destructive Parenting Behaviours is caused ? – By Parenting Workshop
We don’t let our children experience risk –
We live in a world that informs us of danger at every turn. The “safety first” niggle enforces our panic of losing our kids, so we do everything we can to protect them. It’s our job after all, but we have isolated them from healthy adventurous behaviour and it’s had an adverse effect. psychologists have discovered that if a child doesn’t play outside and is never allowed to experience a bloody knee, they frequently have phobias as adults. Kids need to fall a few times to learn it’s normal; teens likely need to break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend to appreciate the emotional maturity that lasting relationships require. If parents remove risk from children’s lives, we will likely experience high arrogance and low self-esteem in our growing leaders.
- We liberate too quickly –
Today’s generation of young people has not developed some of the life skills kids did 30 years ago because adults dive in and take care of problems for them. When we rescue too quickly and over-indulge our children with “assistance,” we remove the need for them to route hardships and solve problems on their own. It’s parenting for the short-term and it very much misses the point of leadership—to equip our young people to do it without help. Sooner or later, kids get used to someone rescuing them: “If I fail or fall short, an adult will smooth things over and remove any magnitudes for my misconduct.” When in reality, this isn’t even distantly close to how the world works, and therefore it disables our kids from becoming competent adults.
- We rave too easily – found parenting Workshop survey –
The self-assurance movement has been around since Baby Boomers were kids, but it took root in our school systems in the 1980s. Attend a little league baseball game and you’ll see that everyone is a winner. This “everyone gets a trophy” mentality might make our kids feel special, but research is now indicating this method has involuntary concerns. Kids eventually observe that Mom and Dad are the only ones who think they’re tremendous when no one else is saying it. They begin to doubt the fairness of their parents; it feels good in the moment, but it’s not connected to reality. When we rave too easily and ignore poor behaviour, children eventually learn to cheat, amplify and lie and to avoid difficult reality. They have not been conditioned to face it.
- We let repentance get in the way of primary well –
Your child does not have to love you every minute. Your kids will get over the frustration, but they won’t get over the effects of being spoiled. So tell them “no” or “not now,” and let them fight for what they really value and need. As parents, we tend to provide them what they need when gratifying our children, especially with several kids. When one does well in something, we feel it’s prejudiced to praise and reward that one and not the other. This is unworkable and misses an opportunity to enforce the point to our kids that success is dependent upon our own schedules and good acts. Be careful not to teach them a good status is rewarded by a trip to the mall. According to latest Parenting Workshop survey – If your relationship is based on solid rewards, kids will experience neither core motivation nor unrestricted love.
- We don’t share our past mistakes –
Share with them the relevant mistakes you made when you were their age in a way that helps them learn to make good selections. (Avoid negative “lessons learned” having to do with smoking, alcohol, illegal drugs, etc.) Also, kids must prepare to come across slip-ups and face the consequences of their judgments. Share how you felt when you faced a similar experience, what drove your actions, and the resulting lessons learned. Because we’re not the only influence on our kids, we must be the best guidance.
- We mistake cleverness, giftedness and influence for maturity –
Intelligence is often used as a measurement of a child’s maturity, and as a result parents assume an intelligent child is ready for the world. That’s not the case. There is no magic “age of responsibility” or a proven guide as to when a child should be given specific liberties, but a good rule of thumb is to witness other children the same age as yours. According to latest Parenting Workshop survey – If you notice that they are doing more themselves than your child does, you may be deferring your child’s independence.
- We don’t drill what we orate –
As parents, it is our obligation to model the life we want our children to live. To help them lead a life of personality and become responsible and liable for their words and actions. As the leaders of our homes, we can start by only speaking frank words – white lies will shallow and slowly eat away at character. Watch yourself in the little virtuous choices that others might sign, because your kids will notice too. If you don’t cut corners, for example, they will know it’s not acceptable for them to either. Show your kids what it means to give generously and joyfully by agreeing for a service project or with a community group. Leave societies and places renovated than you found them, and your kids will take note and do the same.